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Something happened to me tonight that got me thinking…but the response I got is what got me thinking even more. But before we get into that let me explain a little.
I turned 25 last month, big year…was hoping to be married and have my first kid by now (kidding…kinda😉). But here I am, living with my parents with a job that “pays the bills”. I graduated college 2 1/2 years ago (HOWWW) and after college I moved back home…what most millennials do now a days. I have an absolutely amazing family who I get along with very well. I have a free roof over my head, free groceries, and always have company…what could be better. I worked at Lilly for a year and spent more money there then I made, I wish I was kidding, then it was time for a so called “big girl career”. Not that Lilly wasn’t but I was not using my degree and this amazing experience came along, and that’s when I became an Assistant buyer at Bed Bath and Beyond.
I met the love of my life Jared literally 3 days before I started at Bed Bath so as things progressed with him is when my Limbo state began. This limbo state isn’t a bad state it’s just a what the F do I do state…and I’ll also explain more.
So here I am, in this new role (an hour and 30-45min BOTH WAYS from my house) in a new long distance relationship, with a car that sucks on gas, and I am confused. Here we are a year and 4 months later and I am ready for that next step. I am ready to start Jared and I’s future, I’m ready to have a job I truly LOVE and am passionate about, and I’m ready to move out. But how? Where? When? Will we move? Will I move to him? Will he move to me? Will we move somewhere else? How will I leave my family? There are a thousand questions and a thousand answers.
Back to the beginning and why we are having this conversation. I had a women mistakenly message me on a story about my closet saying “and she wonders why she still lives with her parents.” WRONG. But I shared it and explained a tid bit about why I live at home still and I got an overwhelming response from so many of you who are either in the same boat at me, or were once in the same boat as me. IT IS OKAY TO LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. Who cares if people want to judge you for it. It didn’t bother me that she sent it to me, what bothered me is I have never once complained about living with my parents or saying “I can’t move out because I buy too many clothes.” The reason I still live at home is because I am confused and I am in Limbo. And newsflash I am not the first person to ever feel this way.
Life is confusing, and so far this is a time is my life where I am the most confused. I am waiting for that next step in the right direction to tell me where I need to be. When the time is right that step will come! For the mean time I am going to soak up every minute living at home, even though my mom and I fight sometimes, I don’t have enough room for my stuff, I share 1 bathroom with my mom, dad, and brother, and I never get alone time. But I will look back one day and say “wow I miss living at home and screaming at brother to get out of the shower. “(Maybe not the second part, but you get the gist)
There are so many things for me personally that need to be taken into consideration. I am absolutely over NJ traffic, and also NJ is so insanely expensive to live in so why am I going to make Jared leave his 10 min commute and job he has been at for 14 years to come sit in traffic and pay and obscene amount for rent? I’m not. When the time is right and the right things line up is when I will take those next steps in life. Is it easy to move in with your significant other who lives far from you? No.
I am also trying to grow my own business. This blogging thing is a dog eat dog world and if you want to make it you need to have your heart 100% in it. I assure you that I am and I couldn’t do any of it without you! It means the world to me you all follow along with my crazy life and I want to be as open as possible as I can with you guys. I don’t really hide anything because this is REAL LIFE. It’s not pretty, it’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
Don’t ever let someone else dictate your life or tell you how to live. Be you and that’s what’s important and you know what’s best for you! So thank you all for following along and I can’t WAIT for you all to be with my as I take those next steps in life like getting our own place, getting engaged, married, having kids and so on! I know I’m not alone here so that’s why I wanted to share! Hang in there if your with me, we will be fine…(I think🙃)
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